Their impulsive choices bring chaos not only in their own environment but also for many others who care about them.
So often I witness sad situations involving the worldview that because you love someone you will need wildlife control near me to do whatever you can to make that individual’s life easier – even when they are not eager to make great choices. The result is that you pay a cost and the other person never has opportunity to learn because there simply aren’t any consequences for them.
I remember the day he said “When you are working harder than your customer, you’re working too hard”.
Have you been involved in:
Paying bills for another person when they are either not working or spending their money foolishly?
Telling lies or covering up for somebody who isn’t fulfilling their responsibilities?
Allowing another individual to physically or verbally abuse you repeatedly?
Experiencing neglect when the person doesn’t follow through on their promises?
Responding to manipulation or needs from someone who thinks you are the “outstanding help”?
Trusting the other person will begin thinking and behaving appropriately even when they’ve never done this consistently?
Cleaning up messy situations for somebody else over and over again?
Ignoring your long-term needs and wants in sacrifice for a person’s short-term crisis?
Losing sleep and feeling obsessed with things which you cannot change?
When I ask people why they continue to do things that aren’t working with the hope of bringing positive change they frequently respond “I love them”. Well, love is not enough! We can not change other individuals. They change when life does not work for them anymore. Perhaps your actions done in the spirit of love are now preventing them from confronting the scenarios that will lead them to adulthood. You may love them but you will need to know clearly where you stop and they begin.
If you can identify with any of the things on the above list, you want to consider other options. You can learn how to establish healthy boundaries that won’t only help you, but also help another person to grow up! Meeting with a trained professional will provide you the tools you need.